I live in the house where we raised our kids. We fought bitterly during our marriage due to his drinking and refusal to account for large amounts of money spent. When he left, my daughter had been out of high school for one year, working for a year before entering college.(she was very young in her class so this was a good idea) My son was in 9h grade. My husband DID put about 1000 into a joint account to help pay the mortgage and many loans that were jointly owned every month. This 1000 is still being paid (which is a little less than the mortgage) while I cover about 850 dollars in joint credit payments. In addition I have taken out parent loans in only my name as he refused to help pay for college for the kids. I have also paid all the maintenance costs including lawn and pool care, and all the extras while the kids were away a college, ie books, parking, spending money, hair cuts, clothes. We agreed to begin to try to sell the house. He is now acting like I am a tenant